I’ve had a couple people ask me why I no longer post on Toypics and this is why. I blocked out my name and e-mail because that is my actual name and my usual e-mail. If you have issues reading the caps, message me and I will copy and paste the e-mails or something, idk.
Anyway, I used to post on Toypics under the name BoyWith2Holes, same as my QueerPornTube name. There used to only be Guys + Toys and Women + Toys categories. I would post in the Guys + Toys because I am a guy. They had added a Transgender + Toys category which I would also post in because I am a trans guy. Seems pretty logical.
Then I get an e-mail from the site owner, the same person who own Bad Dragon, that I need to post ONLY in Transgender + Toys. I get the reasoning that first, it’s because I am trans and people are complaining about there being a dude pussy in the guy tag. Their issue, not mine. Then, he backpedals and says it is based on ‘actual sex’. Well, my actual sex is male. Transgender is not an actual sex.
I break these points down very clearly and calmly in my e-mails to him. After the last one, I went to my Toypics account. He had deleted every single one of my videos for refusing to give into this cissexism. All of them, gone. That was the final straw. I deleted my account.
The idea that Bad Dragon is cissexist/transphobic is not unfounded. It is something I personally experienced and it’s one of the reasons I now do paid porn. They are also racist, and misogynistic. They also do not tell their customers of policy changes, refuse refunds for their company mess-ups, and so forth. If you want an alternative, I suggest Frisky-Beast, Damn Average (Etsy/FA) and Average (FA).
This is the funniest thing to ever happen to Canada
I have never been prouder to be Canadian
"If a white man wants to lynch me, that’s his problem. If he’s got the power to lynch me, that’s my problem. Racism is not a question of attitude; it’s a question of power."
— Stokely Carmichael (Kwame Ture)
Breaking News: A(nother) white guy won’t admit when he’s being racist. If that’s not a shock to you, then you are probably like the rest of us — still wondering how many more times this has to happen before we can have an open, frank conversation about white supremacy without getting derailed into the “but not all” pit of tears. As difficult as it might be for many white Americans to digest, contemporary racism has morphed far beyond what it was fifty or a hundred years ago. Today it is often invisible, embedded deep within the structures and language governing our society, so when an opportunity presents itself to open a dialogue on just how far the depth of its camouflage has become, we have to take it.
Philip DeFranco, internet celebrity and creator of the YouTube channel Philly D, has often done just that, making a career of reporting/commenting on news and current events. So when he made one of his weekly videos on the racist comments of Donald Sterling a couple months back, no surprise. DeFranco was “doing what he does.” He even went so far as to call Sterling out after watching a follow-up interview where the uber-rich Clipper owner debased former NBA superstar Magic Johnson for having HIV, posting these gifs to his Tumblr page with the following caption: “SURPRISE! Donald Sterling is still (of course) SUPER FUCKING RACIST.”
The trouble with making a career of calling other people out is if and when you happen to BE the problem, having enough self-reflexivity to admit it, allow discussions about it, and correct it comes at great discomfort… Or you could just be a total dipshit like Donald Sterling was and deny any wrongdoing whatsoever.
When Mr. YouTube Sensation himself got called out for making racialized comments about Beyonce’s sister Solange (calling her “ratchet mcsloppy ass,” never mind effectively calling her a b*tch by saying “[F]or the first time ever Jay Z now has one hundred problems”), instead of taking the advice he so enthusiastically gave Sterling of admitting mistakes and moving forward, he seems to instead have taken public relations lessons from the billionaire racist.
Specifically, after a fellow Tumblr user (a woman of color) told DeFranco, “Ratchet is a racialized term. So is ghetto. So is thug. So is welfare queen. Someone does not have to EXPLICITLY say the word “black” in order for something to be racist against black people. Speaking in flagrantly racist terms is one of the least sophisticated manifestations of racism today,” he responded:
“Apparently I’m racist! Sorry every group other than white people. We can’t be friends now. Tumblr says I’m a bad person because at one point I said the word ratchet. Also who says, “Welfare Queen”?
My disdain for most people knows no color, gender, or creed. That said, congrats about complaining about something on Tumblr, playing victim, and getting lots of reblogs. YOU’RE CHANGING THE WORLD Y’ALL!!!
Love yo faces :) Except white people. Fuck those honkies… AMIRITE?!”
One of the most sinister things about normalized racism (and misogyny for that matter) is you don’t have to have bad intentions to be racist; you just have to remain ignorant. With his faux-apology, Philip DeFranco is doing that in strides. Instead of taking some well-placed criticism as a learning opportunity, he decided to go the route of total dipshit, denying all wrongdoing whatsoever.
His response is an attempt to minimize his mistake, to create a straw-man so he does not have to take responsibility for having used racialized language, and at all times never having to look inward at himself at his own racism. It is the socialization of his backwardness —“My disdain for most people knows no color, gender, or creed” — as if equally being a bigot resolves being a bigot at all.
The really unfortunate part is his show Philly D is a small window into a larger phenomenon in our culture, a sort of profiteering off the struggles of real people, with real issues like the perception of black and brown folk in a white supremacist world. But this is, after all, the central problem with white guys with a little social capital: They can say whatever the fuck they want and be loved and paid for it.
In a real sense Philly D is the cheaper, YouTube rendition of white men like Stephen Colbert and John Stewart profiting off the everyday-struggles of black and brown lives. His videos on Sterling and Solange got over a million views, accumulatively. On Tumblr and Facebook people signal boost him by the thousands. His endorsements through YouTube, the merchandise he sells, etc., have aggregated him an estimated net worth of three million.
Yet, with all the upward mobility his skin has helped afford him, with all the fame and visibility, DeFranco is still just another white guy refusing to see his privilege. From his own blog he seems to utterly fail at understanding what institutional racism is, stating, “I have been informed by several people that white people cannot be the victims of racism. THIS. IS. AN. AMAZING. DAY.”
Clearly it falls on deaf ears that to get past the basic Webster’s dictionary definition of racism, he might be required to see the perspective of those oppressed peoples whom face racism every day — you know, those actually shouldering the weight of it. In an epic moment of facepalming it does not register to him that claiming to be a victim of racism while living independent of the ramifications of white supremacy — police brutality, the prison industrial complex, educational, medical, and social discrimination, and fetishization of black and brown bodies — smacks of “reverse racism.”
The last part of his response — “YOU’RE CHANGING THE WORLD Y’ALL!!!” — is the cherry on the cake. Here he insults those of us calling him out by assuming we are doing nothing by educating others (at times through social media, the very mechanism that made him millions) in our private lives, but he again, being a dismissive dipshit, assumes we are not also the foot-soldiers making-by-living the change of creating a better world.
All I can say is fuck that guy. It would be hard to find a more obvious example of a less self-inflated white man getting called out for being ignorant and having an overly inaccurate, generous view of himself, and then effectively telling everybody else we must be stupid not to see his awesomeness.
Who knows though, maybe he will actually apologize. Maybe he’ll do a feature with himself as the butt of his own joke, where he calls himself out as a privileged white dude making a buck off crappy journalism and half-baked commentary. Maybe he’ll even post a couple gifs to Tumblr saying it with the caption “SURPRISE! I’m still (of course) A PRIVILEGED DIPSHIT.”
I won’t hold my breath, just remember: Not all racism comes clothed in white sheets.
Shut the fuck up with your double standard bullshit black actors, comedians, and rappers say shit bout white people everyday and unlike black people white people suck it up and deal with it. Stop with the fucking putty partyA blog with the name “revolutionsociety” from a person who clearly doesn’t grasp what systems of oppression are or how white supremacy informs anti-black racism… Irony, or dumb post-racial dipshit, or both?
fuck regular q-tips i need some masculinity-tips
whgat… do you build.. with a qtip…
coming out of your room at 3 am and seeing your parents
Today’s Gender of the day is: Neon lighting in the shape of the word ‘No’ lit up against a blank wall
Guaranteed basic income to every citizen, whether or not they are employed to ensure their survival and that they live in a dignified, humane way, preventing poverty, illness, homelessness, reducing crime, encouraging higher education and learning vocations as well as helping society become more prosperous as a whole.
Wow. Forget raising the minimum wage. This is much much better idea.
The minimum wage could actually drop if we had basic income.
But Americans would never go for it. Miserably slogging through 12 hour days and having businesses open 24/7 is too engrained in our culture.
"BUT WHERE WILL THE GOVERNMENT GET THE MONEY?" screamed Joe Schmoe, slamming a meaty fist onto the table and getting mouth-froth all over the front of his greying tank top. "You libt*rds all think money grows on TREES!! HAHA!"
"But where will people get the incentive to work?!" Mindy Bindy cried, flapping her hands in front of her face. She’d had a fear of the unemployed lollygagging about ever since she was a child and her mother told her to be afraid of the unemployed lollygagging about. "You think people should get paid for nothing? I work hard for my money!”
"But who will serve me?" grumbled Marty McMoneybags. "Who will make me feel important? Who will do my laundry and cook my food and stand in front of me wearing a plastic smile while I take out all my stress—because I do have a lot of stress, you know, being this rich is stressful—on them?” He paused and straightened out the piles of hundred dollar bills on the desk in front of him, then raised his two watery, outraged eyes up to the Heavens. “Lord, if there are no poor people, how will I know that I’m rich??”
I laughed. This is perfect! Well said!
The thing is, while I’m sure you could scrape up a few people who’d be willing to just float by on a guaranteed minimum income? For most people the choice to work would be a no-brainer. “Hmmm. I can get by on 33k a year, or I can take that part time job and make 48k… enough to move to a better apartment, maybe take the family on vacation. Sold.” Hell, most people would want to work simply because it gives one a sense of dignity and something to do with one’s time. (Speaking as someone who’s been unemployed, on extended sick leave, etc. in her time, the boredom and sense of isolation that comes with not having a job is almost as bad as the humiliation of having to depend on other people for one’s survival.)
And with this system, part-time jobs and “non-skilled” jobs would be much more readily available because nobody would need to work two or three jobs just to stay afloat!
Which would ALSO mean that employers and customers couldn’t shamelessly exploit employees the way they can today, because if losing a job weren’t necessarily a financial disaster, more people would be willing to walk out on jobs where they weren’t being treated with dignity.
And if this also applies to students (and it should) then student loans would become much less of a problem, and fewer people would flunk out of school because of having to juggle studies and work.
Far fewer people would be forced to stay with abusive partners, parents or roommates because they couldn’t afford to move out.
And the thing is, all those people who suddenly had money? They’d be spending it. They’d be getting all the stuff they can’t afford now - new clothes, books, toys, locally-produced food, car repairs - and with each purchase money would flow BACK to the government, because VAT, also income tax.
The unemployed and/or disabled wouldn’t need special support any more - which would also mean the government could fire however many admins who are currently engaged in humiliating - *cough* making sure those people aren’t getting money they don’t deserve. Same for medical benefits and pensions. And I’m no legal scholar, but I somehow imagine less financial desperation would lead to less petty crime, and hence less need for police and security everywhere?
TL;DR Doomie thinks this is a good idea, laughs at those who protest.
reblogging for more top commentary
They tried something like this out in Canada as a sort of social experiment, called Mincome. What they found was that, on the whole, people continued to work about as much as they did before. Only new mothers and teenagers worked substantially less hours.
But wait, there’s more. Because parents were spending just a little more time at home and involved with their families, test scores increased. Because teens didn’t have to work to support their families, drop-out rates decreased. Crime rates, hospital visits, psychiatric hospitalizations and domestic abuse rates all dropped, as well. More adults pursued higher education. Those who continued to work reported more job flexibility and more opportunity to choose employment they preferred.
Basically, now you can go prove to your asshole family members that society won’t collapse without poor people for you to feel better than.
The picture is awesome, but read the commentary, that’s what I’m reblogging for.